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The iPad as a parenting tool

19 April 2013
Posted in: Scratchpad | 1 Comment

iPadThere’s this funny story doing the rounds—about a young couple raising their two kids in modern-day urban India. When their first came along, they had higher ideals about the good and proper way to raise a child, in which the idiot box had no part. By the time the second emerged, they had significantly more grey hairs and were much more receptive to various well-known child-rearing tools, such as cartoons as feeding aid, to name one. “And if we ever have a third,” they said, “we’ll just hand it an iPad the moment it pops out and let it bring itself up.”

It’s not that I have any first-hand experience, but I don’t really need to be convinced about the efficacy of the iPad as a parenting tool. I’ve been watching the Nephew turn to it with unerring regularity, and have often silently complimented Apple for developing an interface that even toddlers can master.

And not just N, his parents too have been known to rely on the iPad when all else fails. The other week, while I was visiting, N had a nuclear meltdown one morning. And I mean a MELTdown. Wow. I was too scared to come out of my room. A couple of hours later, when things had calmed down, I ventured to ask the sibling what did the trick. She raised her eyes to the heavens (perhaps in silent supplication to Mr Jobs) and said, “iPad.”

I think the case is well and truly rested.

~PD

 

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Comfort food

18 March 2013
Posted in: Scratchpad | 4 Comments

A cup of teaA craving for curd rice? How unglamorous! Until last week, when I was laid low by a stomach bug, I wasn’t even aware of how much I love curd rice. But after spending the better part of the week spent eating a variety of boiled things, the craving hit. I could almost smell the mustard seeds and curry leaves frying, taste the little bits of onion and ginger, inhale just a dash of the hing

It took three days of curd rice for breakfast, curd rice for lunch and curd rice for dinner for the craving to pass. I’m happy to report, though, that I still love it. Just that I’m ready to move on to regular food.

Anyway, it got me thinking about my favourite comfort foods and when they are particularly special to me:

Chocolate: No explanations needed here, of course. But somehow I like chocolate best at night, and only when I’m relaxed. Unlike a lot of people, I can’t wolf down a tone of the stuff when I’m depressed—I like chocolate when I’m happy.

Tea: For the more pedantic among you, yes, I know, it’s not a “food”! I’m a regular tea drinker, am fussy about how I have my tea, and it’s always the one thing I crave for when I’m stressed or tired. I also love a cup of tea after a meal.

Light chicken curry with rice: Among my fond memories of kiddy-hood, chicken-curry-rice, with a squeeze of lemon, is definitely right up there. Both my parents have perfected the art of chicken curry—spanning the spectrum from a racy, masaaledar magnificence to one so light that it almost floats in the air. It’s the latter that I long for on lazy days. I’m not terribly bad at making it myself; the trouble is, I crave it when I’m feeling indolent.

Roadside momos: They are my favorite street junk food in Delhi. I know it’s not very adventurous, but they are what I reach for when I’m feel particularly reckless. They’re usually served with a deadly sauce made of red chillies that my stomach revolts against, though.

Brown Bomb at Corner House: One of my favourite junk foods in Bangalore, but stay tuned for a more detailed post on this subject.

~PD

 

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Can’t buy you love

14 February 2013
Posted in: Scratchpad, Social issues | 1 Comment

Commercial loveSomething strange happened today—I almost found myself in agreement with HT City. “Are we being conned?” screamed the headlines, asking if Valentine’s day was a gimmick thought up to line the pockets of sellers of pink and heart-shaped things. Unfortunately, a closer look revealed that the placement of the story was probably a gimmick itself. And my world was righted.

Citing a survey “across platforms”, HT came up with the revelation that 42 per cent (of youngsters aged 18 to 25) agreed that it is a con, followed by 35 per cent who thought it probably is but are willing to be wooed, and bringing up the rear were the remaining 23 per cent who felt it is a “worldwide tradition” that ought to be embraced.

Like most of these sort of polls, a closer look at the sample told a different story: 340 respondents in a city with over 16 million residents (23 million if you count the entire NCR) is hardly representative. Moreover, one would hardly imagine the “platforms” the survey was conducted on—website, social media, FM radio channel and face-to-face (and they got only 340 people?!)—made any effort to reach every corner of its complex society. Yet another testimony of how the day is targeted at a class able to spend money.

Up until liberalization in the early 1990s, we in India really hadn’t much notion of Valentine’s Day. The first I heard of it was as a pre-teen, through an aunt who worked at a Christian missionary school and was generally better informed about saints and their “days” than anyone else I knew. It was only around the mid-1990s that the commercialization started (as I recall it). Twenty years later, Valentine’s Day is a money-spinning blitz coated in shiny, glittery marketing, and pushed down our throats in a package of emotional blackmail.

Most of the carrots are dangled in front of youngsters—”Tell your special someone that you love them. All you need is this heart-shaped chocolate wrapped in pink shiny paper, and here’s a bunch of roses and a fluffy teddy bear holding a card with mushy verses inside just in case they are a bit slow.” And if you’re slightly older, there’s always that special Valentine’s Day dinner or romantic getaway. These messages are also continually reinforced by deviously planting in impressionable minds the idea that if you get it wrong, there is something lacking in your relationship. Thus, an unrelenting pressure to conform, without really stopping to wonder why.

My general derision for Valentine’s Day does not mean I’m opposed to romance or love. Just that the idea that you’re supposed to express it in a certain way on a certain day is loathsome (to me). Especially because doing so will mean I’ve fallen for the marketing brainwashing. Also, who can really get excited about a day that “revolves around a deranged baby with a weapon” (from Switched at Birth)?!

Call me regressive, but if you love someone, they should know it by how you are every day, not because you buy them overpriced roses and take them to dinner because a shiny ad in the papers said so.

~PD
 

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