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An unusual wedding

25 April 2006
Posted in: Scratchpad | 13 Comments

The biggest lie they tell you about your wedding is: “It’s your day.” That’s about as far as you can get from the truth. The last person whose day it is is yours, especially when it comes to Indian weddings. It is an occasion when your family is subjected to an intense scrutiny by relatives—especially those you least like—whose main agenda is to make a nuisance of themselves in general. Nothing that you want is important; everything that is supposed to be is. They call it a compromise, but that’s just a polite term for getting you do things you don’t want to.

So, my advice: ELOPE!

Anyway, the wonderful thing about a blog is that it is all about you! Belive it or not, I started out wanting to talk about an unusual wedding I attended in Bangalore! This was of Priya and Carsten Matzen, who actually got married in Copenhagen, Denmark, in September 2005. Priya is an old college friend (not to be confused with my sister, who has the same name). In those days we weren’t exactly particularly close—I think we just about tolerated each other ;-)! It was when we met many years later that we saw each other in a different light and decided to keep in touch. This was achieved by infrequent IMs, mails and a single telephone conversation, given that she was in Paris at that time, and then moved to Copenhagen.

The Indian edition of Priya and Carsten’s wedding took place in Bangalore. And it wasn’t a coincidence that I happened to be there at that time! A large contingent of Carsten’s close-knit Danish family had come down as well, and I don’t believe I’ve seen that much blond hair and blue eyes in one room! The amazing thing was, they all decided to deck themselves in Indian clothes, and seemed to rather enjoy the musicians and the traditional south Indian meals. (I found myself seated next to Priya’s father-in-law during lunch on the day of the wedding. I asked him how he liked the food. He said, “Spicy!” I doubt I’ll ever hear curd-rice called “spicy”. But in all I was quite ashamed of myself because I had no idea what the food served to me was and couldn’t help scrutinizing it suspiciously. The Danes on the other hand were all tucking in enthusiastically.)

There was a reception on Sunday night, followed by a wedding ceremony the next morning. There was all manner of strange rituals, but entertaining to watch nevertheless, given the translations and explanations being provided for the Danes. (Here I must apologize to Priya and her family for thoroughly getting in the way of the “official” photographers! At the end of the day, I didn’t even get too many good photographs… :-()

Without further ado, here are some of the photographs:

Priya and Carsten display their enviable smiling muscles –>

Priya and Carsten

Me with Priya and Carsten < -- And that's me with them 😳 Wedding day: The damned chairs kept getting in the way of good angles-->

Strange wedding ritual

More wedding stuff < --More wedding stuff From left to right: Priya's father, Priya, Carsten, Carsten's mother and father -->

And more

~PD

13 Responses

  1. Meenal Mehta says:

    very nice pictures ..I was here ..

  2. Marie says:

    Jan, it’s a wedding. You’re suppose to smile at weddings not pose for a mug shot!

    Imagine all the blonds at Nik and I’s wedding!

  3. Niklas says:

    I’m gonna let Marie taste my wedding cake then! *too kind*

  4. Payal says:

    Smita, Meenal and Sumaira were here! Noted and filed away! :mrgreen:

    Marie, I don’t care about the blonds so much, but would advice you to get married in Sweden and send me an invite with a ticket. I do want to visit Sweden…

    …and taste wedding cake. 😎

  5. Satvinder says:

    Hey Payal, u r supposed to smile.. don’t u??? 😀

  6. Payal says:

    I am smiling. See –> 🙂

  7. Proteeti says:

    Loved the pics! And know just what you mean about Bangalore being heaven after Delhi – not that I’ve been there, but the few things you noted makes me want to relocate immediately! Especially the ice creams – why did I go and read your blog on a sweltering summer afternoon, when I’m half-dead in office from extreme boredom? 😥 And please to tell me – where do I get Tamora Pierce and the other trilogy you mentioned in Delhi? I can’t find them anywhere!

  8. alpana says:

    You look like you just want the picture to be over and done with and the photographer is takign way too long for your liking. I do that too, so I will be kind and not comment on the fact that you are not smiling. Almost managed it, but not quite :mrgreen:

  9. Payal says:

    Proteeti: Tamora Pierce is available at Midlands. I’ve got most of mine from the South Ex one. So is Trudi Canavan, but you have to be careful which edition you buy. There’s a low-price HB one and a low-price PB one. But there’s also a very expensive PB!

    Alpana: That’s about as far I’ll go when it comes to smiling for photos! Deal with it!! :mrgreen:

  10. Sayantani says:

    Loved reading about the entire trip. Right from the wedding to the icecreams to the bookstore, where I have been btw.
    Seems like you managed to fit in quite a few things in your short trip. And some of the experiences you mentioned…like auto-wallah not overcharging…sound good.

    But never ever am I leaving Delhi for Bangalore….after a week in Bangalore I was dying for Delhi, and cannot tell you how glad I was to come back.

  11. Elo Detsor says:

    Meenal Mehta Says:
    Wednesday, 26 April 2006 at 12:00 am
    very nice pictures ..I was here ..

    I say: I was there:razz:

  12. Anne Gadegarad Larsen says:

    Hiya,

    Wasn’t there myself but have seen all the photos and it looks like you all had a brilliant day.

    All my best for the married couple,
    Anne 😆

  13. Hansraj says:

    Cool reporting. You should publish an update of this beautiful couple.

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